Parenting for people of African origin in NRW

In order to be able to better integrate our children in Germany, we as parents have to deal with the development and needs of the child. In this way we are able to understand the children better and we have the opportunity to support, accompany and encourage them better.

If the basic needs of children are understood and satisfied, the prerequisites are created to support the child in its development and learning processes and to enable it to live a happy, self-determined life. It is therefore important and necessary to support and encourage children to develop this self-realization through play. Children need structure and rituals so they can orientate themselves better. The children have a feeling of reliability and security.

In everyday life, the children should have the opportunity to be encouraged in the various areas of education, which can be integrated into everyday life with simple games and everyday materials and can be accompanied linguistically in the play process. Employees in the institutions should be informed of changes in the family or environment, so one can respond individually to the child. If the child shows a change in behavior, they are informed about the background and can therefore show understanding towards the child in order to accompany them well. Because children process what they experience and perhaps may be silent, they can withdraw themselves or become physically violent towards other children.

If parents do not have the opportunity or do not know how to support their child's development, they should be approached and get help from kindergarten or school. We can point the parents to various options or refer them to the institutions where they can get support. The child experiences self-efficacy and this promotes the child's self-confidence, so he can deepen and expand his skills with the support of us as parents and educators. Here the meaning of game is important, through which the competences and own physical abilities and limits are acquired. For this, the child needs time, space and of course the materials it needs to be able to gather and internalize the experiences.

There is the possibility of registering the children in a play group for parent-child gymnastics, baby massage or baby swimming, so that the first social skills are promoted. As parents, we get to know other parents from the area and exchange talks take place between parents. There are numerous offers in the community where you live. In this way, the child has an easy start in kindergarten and does not feel incapable and insecure in its actions. The child is able to explore and can thus better integrate into its environment. The child can develop a basic knowledge of its age through the excursions and the experiences it has had and can anchor this.

If you have the opportunity and can afford it, it is advisable to go on vacation with the children, even if it is only for a few days, because they have also experienced something during the vacation that they can tell. Again and again other children tell what they have done. Most of the time, our children don't have anything to tell because they haven't experienced or done anything. They already feel different in society and live apart from the life they experience in school or kindergarten, which can cause insecurities in the child. Then they feel like they don't belong. There are also local recreation areas where you can experience great things instead of having the kids watch TV all the time or spending several days at home without doing anything.

Conclusion:

We as parents must set an example for our children by showing interest and working in partnership with the institutions. From experience I have often observed and found that the children feel safer and safer. They perceive that the parents get along well with the staff in the school or kindergarten and trust us. The child experiences more security and is able to engage in new things and gain more positive experiences in order to expand their learning skills. As a parent, it is also important to know your child well, to know what my child can do? Where else should it be promoted? In this way, there is good cooperation between staff and parents.

In addition, we need to take more time for the children/teenagers to communicate and learn about the child's interests or what is on the child's mind. That way you can find common solutions.